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Michael Juco's avatar

oh also the thing about the frontal lobe being fully grown is a loose estimate but make sure u keep ur brain active, engage with even the most mundane task, folks it helps with brain plasticity and helps u from stagnating or regressing

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Michael Juco's avatar

“Got trapped into buying tickets for next year” plur is dead n ur the reason

There’s an interesting concept of sadness becoming a habit. Sadness feels good, crying releases endorphins, if you tell your friends you’re sad, you get their attention. In this idea, your body doesn’t know the difference between happy and sad feeling, it just is. The body doesn’t know concepts of being happy it just knows what chemicals it craves. (Ngl this feels very reductive of the human experience but also 🤷) When you get that endorphin release it doesn’t care how you got there, it just likes that it got there. I’ve been choosing to think things are pretty funny on a cosmic level, like fuck this shit sucks but god damn if I was watching this on TV I’d make fun of him and probably laugh about it. Sadness is a bit of a choice and perspective and I’m happy to hear the reflection is raising you up as opposed to spiraling down.

Depression as an aesthetic is interesting and I kinda find it a little cringe now looking at all the stuff I used to post as a teenager and I’m glad I got that out early and now can appreciate just being stupid.

Really interesting and vulnerable topic and I’m glad you shared because there’s a lot that I resonate within here

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Jasmine Wang's avatar

no like such a good point!! because think tumblr era where ppl would post sad things but get community from it. not saying it’s a bad thing but where do we draw the line on when ppl will actually get up and feel better vs staying in the sad!!

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Michael Juco's avatar

fr tumblr was a curse on my developing man brain

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riri's avatar

Very well written - Cheney would be proud. It reminds me of one of my favorite quotes from Bojack Horseman, “It takes a long time to realize how truly miserable you are, and even longer to see it doesn’t have to be that way.” Sometimes sadness becomes so entrenched it’s hard to separate it without feeling like you’re losing a part of yourself, but realizing that is so necessary to growing and developing into a happier, more content person. Or something idk

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Jasmine Wang's avatar

love u and cheney

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Kiran's avatar

your bit about sadness being egotistic reminds me of a comment i saw on tiktok of how obsessive anxious thoughts about what other people think of you can be a form of narcissism — because you’re putting value on yourself through their eyes and putting yourself at the center of their lives when they aren’t thinking of you at all. it ended with “humility is not thinking less of yourself, it is thinking of yourself less”, tying into being present in your life and not just a witness!

happy birthday beautiful welcome to 25 🫶🏽🥳

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Jasmine Wang's avatar

exactly!!!! <3

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